I have often find myself telling myself that I don’t like something about me. I’m sure that many of you have felt the same way as me. Doesn’t matter in what way you say something bad, but you definitely have been critical towards yourself. What I recently noticed is that I compliment myself more than I criticize myself. I tell myself good things about my appearance or about things I’m currently working on. And day by day I criticize less. When I come across a mirror I try to think something positive before I say something negative. I don’t give myself the chance to say something bad. It happens, of course when I forget, but the minute I say something bad, I immediately stop and think of something good. That my hair looks great today or the jeans are really flattering on me. Whatever it takes, to make myself feel a little bit better.
So I wanna address something else too. The previous was more about appearance and how you feel inside about yourself. Now let’s talk about the mindset and confidence in what you do in life. How do you go through life? Self-sabotaging yourself in every step that you take? Just killing your inner peace and creativity by working in some random place you hate. Or you work in harmony with yourself? Doing something that really inspires you and keeps you creative every single day. Which one will you choose? That really speaks about your present life. Most likely you will choose the first option, sadly. BUT if you chose the second one, then congratulation you are a winner! It’s truly amazing to do in life what you really love and meant to be doing. It’s very rare that people actually are doing what they love. Most people don’t even know what they want to do with their lives. They just work at some random job until they retire or they change job very frequently as they are searching for something better. Most people won’t find it. For most people it’s frustrating and some people just don’t have it in them to fight anymore. So they give up. I really hope that you are a fighter, not defeatist.
So, now think how you think about yourself? When you look into the mirror? When you work out? When you eat or being out with your friends? When you have some big important thing that you’re nervous about? At what moment you find yourself being the most critical? If you don’t know or you think that you never say anything bad about yourself then I have an assignment for you. Notice how you talk to yourself during the day. Write it down when you say something mean and after that immediately tell something great to yourself.
The other question is about saying good things to yourself. Do you do that enough? Do you compliment yourself? Looking into the mirror and saying that those jeans are fabolous on you or when you have something important on that day, that you will do great. If not, try doing that. That’s your assignment number two. Write it down as well. Say good things to yourself. Not only when you have said something bad, say it every time you cross a mirror or you have to go to a place that makes you nervous. It will boost your confidence. Trust me. It’s very simple, yet very difficult for us to say those things and to notice how we are actually talking to ourselves.
Let me know in the comments how did your assignment go and if you are kind enough to yourself. ♥